Many of you have fantasies about being blackmailed. A woman or a man having evidence of your fetishes or things you’ve done that you don’t want your wife, girlfriend, family, coworkers to find out about. Your arousal levels skyrocket when you realize that you have everything to lose as someone starts making demands. Being controlled and exploited through threat of exposure, humiliation, and ruination is what erotic blackmail is all about.
What is Erotic Blackmail?
Chances are, if you are reading this, you are already aware of the existence of erotic blackmail within the realm of kink and fetish play. But, if you’re new here, let me give you a quick rundown:
Erotic Blackmail is a fetish that is typically (but not exclusively) exercised within the female dominant/male submissive dynamic. The person wishing to be blackmailed provides the blackmailer sensitive or potentially incriminating personal information, photos, videos etc. for the purpose of holding them accountable to do something they might otherwise not do or not want to do. It’s a means of control or coercion. Obviously, it has its origins in actual blackmail, but the important distinction as that this scenario is consensual and legal.
And How Do I Get It?
There are a number of ways in which you might play out a blackmail scenario – but almost all have one thing in common: there is a limit to just how far you want the blackmailer to go or just how much you’re willing to give up. It is, in the end, a fantasy scenario, but you want to experience it in a way that is as real as possible… or as real as you can tolerate.
I have not met a blackmailing PSO who is a mind reader. Until I do, I recommend that you email or text the PSO you desire to work with and let them know what you’re looking for. The clearer you can be when explaining what you want the more likely you are to get exactly the kind of scenario you desire. You may feel this ruins the fantasy in your mind, but if you chose to “wing it” you are quite likely to end up with a less than satisfying experience.
You can be as detailed as you want to be, but if you want to leave it up to the PSO on how to proceed, simply reference this article and ask if the PSO entertains blackmail at the risk level you desire. Some won’t entertain every level – some find high risk to be too risky for them, some find low risk to be a waste of their time – but once you ask, you know, and you can proceed accordingly or find someone else to play with.
Knowing what you want from a blackmail scenario is important. If you have specific criteria, you’ll need to know what they are and find a way to communicate them to your blackmailer without ruining your own fun. This risk system is designed to apply to a scenario that takes place between a PSO and a caller using phone, email, and text chat tools through a website like NiteFlirt. You can use it to quickly and succinctly communicate at least the boundaries of what you’re looking for.
The blackmail victim’s desire is to talk about being blackmailed but not actually be blackmailed. Typically, no real money changes hands; no real information is exposed. Any exposure carried out by the blackmailer is 100% fake or harmless. At this level, you might carry out a blackmail roleplay, you might give real information to the blackmailer, the blackmailer may threaten to expose you, and you may agree to their terms, but in the end, it is all temporary fantasy and it’s rare that actions outside the session are taken.
It’s important to let your blackmailer know ahead of time that this is the type of session you want, otherwise you might find yourself with a blackmailer expecting to carry out a medium or even high-risk scenario. You could even find yourself unwillingly exposed.
This level involves real power and some real risk, but with agreed upon limits and often with the use of a safe word. Implementing a safe word allows your blackmailer to push you to your absolute limit without going over your risk threshold. Real information is exchanged, real money is exchanged, or real demands are made and expected to be fulfilled. It is actual blackmail, but also consensual, because you have the off switch – either the safe word or an agreed upon ending signal (for example, you bring the call to an end and it is understood the blackmail period ends with the call).
At this level, some discussion of what the victim is willing to give into, in terms of demands or even an upper limit of how much money the victim is willing to give up helps the blackmailer understand the boundaries. In fact, for this level of blackmail fantasy to have the best chance of satisfying both parties, some communication to sort out safe words and boundaries is required. You can separate the session from the arrangements discussion by using email or text chat before a phone session, as some victims might feel to discuss it during a call ruins the illusion of being powerless.
Because this level of blackmail allows for the victim to define boundaries, in your discussions you should absolutely state whether you intend to participate in financial or non-financial (or both) blackmail. Again, some PSOs will only do one or the other and stating that up front will help you find the blackmail scenario you desire.
As real as it gets, a high-risk blackmail scenario can result in actual exposure. The only thing that separates this kind of erotic blackmail from the real thing is that it is consensually begun by the victim who willingly hands the blackmailer information, photos, videos, etc. that he does not want to be sent to family or to be made public.
There are few, if any, limits and how things proceed is dependent entirely upon the blackmailer’s whim. It should be understood that if the victim indicates that this is the level of risk he desires and then later want to put an end to things because the demands become too great, he will be at the mercy of his blackmailer and may find that they are more than willing to use what they know to get what they want or expose you.
Finding the Right Blackmailer
I’m a fan of medium risk erotic blackmail and will entertain low risk as well. I do not indulge in high risk, as I find it too risky for me, personally. If you’ve never been on NiteFlirt, you can follow my affiliate link (or click the ad at the bottom of this page and sign up – all new callers get 3 free minutes and they can call anyone they like. If you message me (SecretSlut) on NiteFlirt and let me know you signed up with my affiliate link, I’ll send you another 5 free minutes to talk directly to me!
Of course, I’m not the best choice for every caller and there are plenty of Flirts willing to blackmail you to choose from. Every potential blackmailer has their own agenda and risk level they are willing to work with. Contacting them through email, text chat, or an introductory phone conversation up front is the best way to sort out if your desires match up.